Thursday, July 10, 2014

Update on Brighton Mae (aka MOMO)

So yes, I stopped blogging in china, like on day 2. hahahaha oh well- many reasons, Internet was slow, the app I was using to blog was slow and we were pretty much exhausted by the end of each day which didn't leave much time to blog. Once gotcha day happened- my emotions were all over the place and I just didn't have the words to put together. I prayed and just didn't feel lead to write. I hope to go back and update here on each day spent in china but for now I wanted to just update everyone on our Momo. (This is the nick name they called her at the orphanage and it is just what we have been calling her because this is what she likes, and refers to herself as Momo. We also just think its the cutest nick name ever- so Momo it is for now!)

 Adjusting to a life with 4 kids is and has been hilarious to me in many ways. I THINK we are getting the hang of it- who knows, I constantly am forgetting stuff and doing crazy things, but life is good and we just laugh and move on.

MOMO is doing fantastic! Yes- she is older and comes with some very typical orphanage behaviors that will take a while to overcome. Yes she has medical needs and disabilities, both physical and mental ( and yes we knew all this when we said yes to her, just to clear up questions i know many have- no hard feelings, I know people wonder, I would too!) Our weeks right now are filled with lots of family time, and doctors and specialist visits. By keeping it just US right now, we are showing our Momo what a family looks like. Yes we go out and do things- and we are spending time with people who we have asked to not "engage" our girl,  but mostly we try to keep it just us right now. We have noticed that when we bring someone into our home and around our sweet girl we see some regression, and some acting out. So if you see us out- say HI and please limit interaction with our girl, I know it sounds crazy- But she feeds on attention right now- this is very typical behavior from a child who spent 7 years in a orphanage. The ones who seeks attention ( by any means) from the nannies and caregivers often gets the most and food, love ect.  Just to give you an explanation. :) We are not asking you to ignore our child just for no reason! ha! We are just trying to teach her she doesn't have to "do" anything to receive love, food ect from us.

 Despite ALL of this she is JOY! despite all she may not be able to do, there is so much she CAN DO! 

  anyone who has met her will agree with us! pure JOY!

and that is how she came into our arms on "gotcha day" with Joy! 
gotcha day 
just a few hours after we got our sweet girl 

I have to be honest and confess that the fist week with her was hard, and I STILL have extremely hard moments and days, but a very wise friend told me something the first few days after we got our sweet girl- she said "yes she will change these behaviors, she will come far, but YOU will change too" 

and gosh was she right!

I was the one that needed changing..... and I hope the changing never ends.

I am so thankful for the prayers, the friends and family that have rallied around us and showered us with love. From a weary adoptive momma- we need that right now, I am learning to accept help when its offered, one thing I haven't always been good at.  ( I like control- who doesn't?) We are so thankful for every message, every encouraging word, every meal, and gift, every prayer spoken on our behalf. I pray God blessed you in a big way for the Love you have shown us and continue to show us during this transition time for our family. 

I won't get into the "Hard" of it because you know what- there is just too much good and joy we have experienced that out shines the "hard."  Gosh- everyone has some sort of "HARD" in their lives.  Either thru a difficult child, a difficult marriage, work issues, family issues, ect. We all have "Hard"." I Hope thru any hardships we may have, we come out of it different and molded into the believers our heavenly father desires us to be. So we work thru the hard, and we give it to him (  I am not good at this!) we take one day at a time.  We are learning how to be the parents God needs us to be for this sweet gift. We are counting it ALL joy the gifts of all 4 of our children are, and the story God choose to write into our lives. I am thankful for God's grace he extends to us every day.

So thankful for our 4th child, she is a delight and every present light in our lives.

I took these pics of Brighton today because I wanted to capture the "light" in her. Many of you know that in her file from china they wrote that they gave her the particular name YI FUMENG- in hopes she would have a BRIGHT FUTURE.   Her neurologist even commented on it recently when reviewing her file.

Well I think she has that Bright! wouldn't you say?

also- No more covering up that scar anymore. Gotta teach my girl to embrace her scars and past-

SHINE on OUR Bright star!! 

Saturday, May 24, 2014

Day 2 in china/ Hong Kong Disneyland

Today we woke up around 5:30 am ( thanks to Regis- hehe) ate breakfast and decided to take on the Hong Kong subway train station! It was a blast! Really easy to navigate once we got our tickets and map and figured out when and where to switch trains. I wore Regis in the ergo and it was a huge help getting off and on trains fast. He loved it and thought it was so cool we were ridding "chungington"
We absolutely loved riding the subway. I told David we would have missed out on so much had we stayed close to the hotel and not ventured out. We saw people doing their tai chi on our walk thru the town, kids in their school uniforms heading to school, people heading to work. It's amazing how big and nice the subways are here. Everyone was curious but very busy getting where they needed to be.  We got some stares for sure. Especially once people realized we have a child of Asian decent with us. One lady was staring so hard at Regis with a weird look. I finally turned Regis around and had him wave and smile at her. She lite up and her and her friend wanted pics of Regis. I think sometimes we just mistake peoples reactions. They are just curious. I often thought today as I saw several women throughout the day staring so intensely at me and Regis-what if this was a woman who had placed her child at the orphanage steps years ago. Maybe she had always wondered what had happened to her child and had heard stories of Americans coming and adopting their children. Maybe she didn't know what that looked like ya know? A child of another race with a family. I found myself just smiling and waving and hoping that whatever wondering she had she just saw a momma loving her sweet gift of a boy.
David also got to share our story with another American couple we met in the train. It's so funny- if we see other Americans we get so excited!
See- we would have missed out on soooo much had we not taken the subway!

Disney land is on Lantau island. It's another island that makes up Hong Kong. I wish I would have had the camera out and taken pics of all the beautiful mountains and tropical scenery. So beautiful!
Once we got to the last train - it was a Disney themed train! So cool!

We absolutely loved Disney land! It was the perfect place for Regis to have his first Disney experience. It's a smaller park then Disney world so perfect for little guys. From the minute we entered the gates Regis sang and clapped and was soooo happy. Was just priceless watching him experience all this through his eyes.
His fav ride was the buzz light year ride where he got to shoot bad guys. He also loved the " it's a small world ride" was so cute. He sang "it's a small world" song the rest of the day over and over! Was sooo precious. Nicole said at one point- look at him! He has so much joy! He did, what a perfect day.
oh and there are people using "selfie sticks" everywhere! i will attach a photo of a family using one at the bottom of this post. its hilarious- its this long metal device that folds out that you can attach your phone to and hold out far enough to take selfies of you and your friends. we have giggled so much watching people use them. they are all over the place. now that i think about it- there have been a few times I wish i had a "selfie stick' ( we call them that, I have no idea what they are called)

Well my whole family is napping ( it's 5 and we haven't eaten dinner oops) we have the craziest schedule right now. We just go till we crash. Don't know how smart that is but we are sooo loving our time here!!!! ( ok resuming the blogging, feel asleep after writing this and we all just woke up 2:30 am HK time-oops)

Tomorrow we leave on a 11:35 am flight to wuhan!!!!!!! This is the provincial city of hubei where we will stay the next week and on Monday ( Sunday night your time) we get our Brighton Mae!!! Only
two more sleeps!!!! Yahoo!!!!!!!!!

Friday, May 23, 2014

Day 1 in China! Hong Kong

WE ARE IN CHINA!!!!!! So crazy, can't believe we are here. The long flights went as good as can be expected. Regis was really good, enjoyed the movies and games and the food on the flight. They feed you for what feels like the entire time on the airlines. We felt very well taken care of. Nicole did awesome as well. We all ended up napping at least twice on the 14 hour flight, I think I slept the least though. Once we got to Incheon Korea, we had around a 3 hour layover so we ate, rested, let the kids play on the playground to get out some energy, and waited for our next flight. The airport there is super easy to get around and has lots to do! Our flight to Hong Kong was on the HUGE "airbus" which is two levels, we couldn't get over how BIG it was. By this flight we were all dragging but pushed through and made it to Hong Kong around midnight here! ( Hong Kong is 13 hours ahead of those in the US) We found our bus to our hotel, checked in and crashed hard!

Jet lag is crazy. Feels like you can only go so much then u hit a wall hard. Guess we hit it hard cause we slept almost 4 hours this afternoon once we got back from the peak. When we woke up we decided to walk around and find a place to eat. The city reminds me of New York a bit with all the taxi cabs ( except they are red and they drive in the wrong side) it's very busy and bright with all the lights. We got hungry and ended up at Outback Steakhouse. We hope to be more Adventurous with our eating tomorrow! Oh but we did have bubble tea today and don tots! Guess we did pretty good! There is a good mixture of people here- you don't get near as many stares as you do on mainland china. Most people speak English so it's lots easier to navigate and the English signs help. 


We also had to try some famous China "Bubble Tea' Its flavored tea with little bubble like beads at the bottom of it that pop in your mouth. ( kinda like jello I guess) I got the lychee fruit flavored one and it wasn't that bad! Very strong tea for sure. Regis liked it!!! 

We also found the famous egg tarts that Hong Kong is known for. ( called don tots)  Our sweet friends tom and stephanie told us we have to try them. Sooo good! Only got a pic of Regis eating his. He said they were yummy and ate it all. The food here is fun!

Off to bed for tonight. We go to Hong Kong Disneyland tomorrow. Sooo excited! Only 3 more sleeps till Brighton!!!!!!